Feeling
Have you ever felt that meaningful things happen to other people and you feel ‘left out’? Does it make you feel unimportant and abandoned? Do you ever dream of that perfect love, an ideal relationship that brings you happiness, and then you wake up and you’re still on your own, feeling unloved and neglected? Perhaps you can look back and recall having unsolved feelings as a child. - feelings that left you feeling lonely and second best?
Trauma
Maybe your parents weren’t happy in their relationship. Do you think it stems from them? Was there always quarrelling in the household with your siblings constantly at war with each other? Did something tragic or something extremely traumatic happen in your childhood? For instance, in my own case, when my sister suddenly died from a serious virus infection, I was left feeling that it should have been me. I realised how much I had loved her and wondered why I had spent so many years competing with her. But, of course, this didn’t bring her back.
Dreaming
Did your parents split up leaving you feeling more alone than ever before? Did you start a life of fantasy, bringing dreaming into each day, so that it became your reality, your crutch? For me, fantasy was a good excuse to escape from the pain of my reality. The dreams I dreamed were of unrequited love, always involved in the past. I would wake up feeling tortured, desperate and still alone.
Awakening
Did you have the joy of meeting an amazing woman who was really very wise, who could teach you how to love yourself, as I did? Have you ever had the thought that t you were absolutely unworthy of anyone’s love? For me, the changes I began to make in my life were begun because this wise and wonderful woman imparted some of her wisdom teachings to me and I began to think along different lines; I learned that life can be full of extraordinary incidents, making up a woven patterned rug, intricately mixed in beautiful colored threads. In fact, I started to weave an amazing bed cover to throw over my tiny, single bed. I turned out my tiny, single bed and bought a huge king sized one.I re-arranged my bedroom to make space for the perfect love I was desiring to attract into my life. My lovely bed cover was thrown over the king sized bed and my wardrobe was now half empty – the space waiting for the wonderful man who would soon be arranging his clothes in there.
Practice
Downstairs in my kitchen dining-room, I livened up the whole place, clearing away clutter and making room for this imagined person. A pottery jug filled with fresh flowers brightened up the room and I brought into my home pictures of happy couples walking hand-in-hand along a sandy beach. Everywhere, I could feel his presence, even before he appeared in person. I learned to love myself, eating only nutritious, fresh food, and thinking only positive thoughts. Whenever an ugly negative thought occurred, I was quick to acknowledge the highest thought possible, always finding it lurking somewhere, previously secreted away.
Attitude
My friends noticed a difference in my attitude. I was more confident, expressed myself easily. I no longer lingered around bars with a group of mates – I was happy to go home. I liked the feeling of welcome as I stepped through my front door. When I put on a CD and danced around the living room, aware of its lively rhythm, I could easily visualise my ideal partner whirling me around in his arms. Imagination grew apace, expanded and brought me feelings of light and peace. I felt renewed and reborn.
Choosing
Have you had experiences like this that you might choose to turn around? Can you make a positive something out of a situation that might appear, at first glance, to be unbelievably challenging?
Experience
Trust me – I’ve been there, done that and have created my totally wonderful, ideal relationship. Believe me, it works and I’m a living testimony of its wonders!